When we try something new, and fail, we often blame ourselves. I should have more willpower, I can’t focus, my life is too stressful. Or we blame others, my boss, my teacher, my spouse, my family, my past, my partner; they aren’t helping, they’re too demanding, there’s not enough time.

As it turns out, failure is part of the learning process for almost everyone. People who can do something instantly to an expert level are so rarely found, that they have their own word to describe them; prodigy.

 For the rest of all of us, there should be no blame in failing.

Blame hijacks the learning process, sidetracking it away from consolidation, reflection, and response, into a reactive-predictive cycle of ‘I can’t do it, because….’. Blame works as an anchor to the past, and change can only happen in the present.  Failure to get it right, and examining why without blame, is the way it is done, all the way to mastery.

Don’t blame yourself for practicing the blame game; just realize that it is not an effective tool for building a future you.

With something that is as self initiated as the Simple Reset Technique, there will be many times that you have to ‘start over’, because something came up that took your attention, your time, …no blame.

One hundred times starting over is still one hundred repetitions, and in the act of repetition, you will change your brain, and your self.